Managing healthy relationships
Developing good relationships is important for our wellbeing. Good relationships make us feel safe and nurtured; they make us feel valued and give a sense of belonging. Good relationships are about having respect for one another.
Some relationships are unhealthy and aren’t good for our wellbeing. They can make us feel scared, unsafe and affect self-esteem. It’s important to recognise when a relationship isn’t positive, and to ask for help.
If you are supporting a person with a disability, you’ll also want to provide them with the tools to manage healthy, respectful relationships too.
Advice for a healthy relationship
Rape Prevention Education has developed Bodysafe, an education programme for secondary schools that promotes healthy, respectful relationships and aims to reduce sexual violence. You can visit the Bodysafe website to find lots of clear information about what it means to have respect for someone, and guidance around the issue of consent.
You can find information about relationships, sexual health, puberty and reproduction at the Family Planning website. They also have lots of good advice about healthy relationships, communication and coping with love and relationship breakups.
Take a look at the relationship section at the Lowdown. It has tips about managing relationships with friends and whanau, as well as coping with loss, breakups, dating and sex. And you can visit You, Me, Us for information about healthy relationships for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer and intersex (LGBTQI), and advice about what to do when relationships go wrong. This resource is provided by Rainbow Youth.
Places you can get support
People First have written an easy-read booklet called Safeguarding adults from abuse, neglect and harm. It has clear and easy-to-understand information about what abuse and neglect are, how to stop it, and where to get help. You can find the booklet in the easy-read resources section of their website.
It’s not ok have written a handbook about Domestic violence, abuse and neglect of disabled people. It is designed for disabled people, and their friends, family and support workers. It can help people to decide whether their relationships are healthy, and provides information about where to find support.
If you’re a senior citizen – or the person you care for is a senior citizen – then you can get information about elder abuse and support from Age Concern.